In my last post I shared a quote that described Christmas as a magnifying glass over our feelings. If things are going well it’s the most wonderful time of the year, but what if you’re grieving a loss? The pressure to feel the joy of the season can be an even greater challenge. 🔍🔍🔍🌲 Remember there is no timeline for …
‘Be quiet and do as you’re told’. What are conditions of worth and how can we change them?
‘Be quiet and do as you’re told.’ So I did, because that’s how ‘good girls’ behave. And I carried on doing that for decades because I believed it. In a perfect world, we would all be loved unconditionally, but in reality, love comes with conditions. From an early age, many of us have been surrounded by messages from the authority …
How to cope at Christmas
‘Christmas comes but once a year’. It’s a line from an 1851 poem by Thomas Miller. No doubt Christmas festivities were very different in the 19th century and probably only lasted a day or two. Now, the Christmas ‘season’ begins as soon as shops have taken down the display of pumpkins and replaced them with cards and tinsel. It’s …